I think due to personal problems at home I've become much more vocal about disagreeing with people generally calling them out more on their crap. It's just stress BT I can see it coming through. I've also got to stop looking at political things on Facebook. It's not helping.
That you're recognising and talking about it is a good thing , trust me. The point about facebook political posts I completely agree with , it does seem to bring the very worst out in people.
Definately not read any more politics on fb. Hope you get through what you're going through and Im (like many) are just a FB messenger away.
Ive found not watching the news, and not logging onto social media/ forums etc a great help when feeling stressed.
Something I have learned, which has helped me to cope with anger while dealing with multiple chronic illnesses, is to view anger in 3 stages. The first stage is your initial emotional reaction to the triggering event. Feeling angry is a perfectly normal (and healthy) emotional response and is something that is nearly impossible to control. So, accept that you will get angry. The second stage is your response to feeling angry. I find it helpful to take a deep breath and ask myself why I'm feeling angry. Did someone do or say something I consider stupid or foolish? If so, I should choose to display empathy and pity for that person's foolishness. Allowing my reaction (anger) to drive my response will only lead to more pain for all parties, and no constructive outcome. The third stage is your decision to hold on to (or let go of) your anger. Holding on to negative feelings achieves nothing and only causes you (and potentially those who care about you) pain in the long run. It's like letting the person who angered you live in your head rent free. Don't give them the satisfaction. It may sound like mumbo jumbo, but I have had profound results in controlling my anger by meditating every morning. Even 10-15 minutes makes me feel much better about events or circumstances that made me angry. There are plenty of apps out there to assist with guidining you through the process. I hope you find peace soon mate.
Sounds very similar to the mindfulness approach. You try to be the observer of your emotions, rather than just being your emotions. "I am feeling angry" rather than "I am angry". It's amazing what that little bit of objective perspective can do.
This is something Hannibal any I have spoken about and is definitely the focus for 2018. You'll have to excuse the seemingly masked profanity, but I've just started reading a book called Stuff It Therapy (this is how the title is written, but you can replace "Stuff" with th f bomb). Next on the list is Mind Boxing by Hannibal's instructor, Sifu Singh. Any other suggestions greatly appreciated. As for political things on Facebook and the like I never join in. Any posts that raise my blood pressure get deleted, even if posted by friends, I never by newspapers, as they tell me what I should be thinking about any given subject and I'm smart enough to make my own decisions where that's concerned. I do watch the news, but just BBC News to keep up with current affairs. You'll never see me on MAP posting on political or religious threads. Part of it I'll admit is often out of ignorance, but also because I either don't care, or because I don't need to stress of it.
There is some great advice on here. I hope it helps you through it. I have done the mediation thing also for the same reason, and even though I have a political opinion I will avoid most posts and pages on social media. These days I often mix meditation into running and shut my brain off for large parts of it.
So much this! No matter of MAP, Facebook or any other site. These subjects never work out in the end and only annoy people to a point, that it's pure aggression in the end. I tried subjects about religion a few times, but nope, not worth it. You believe in God: You're an idiot. You don't: You're an idiot. Because 90% of both sides can't just let the other side live with their believes. I have the same problem all now and then, but honestly no advise, as to how I handle it, since I'm pretty much waiting until it's over again. The only thing I do, is: Deep breaths, calming down - outwards; whereas I am burning inside. Which... is pretty much no good advise at all, because it's ... bad. And avoiding people whenever possible. When I was on withdrawal it was horrible enough, that I took my medications again, because I felt like arguing and fighting all the time. And no, that's no advise, to take medication. If not necessary and the such. I should probably try some of the tips here myself. As I know me, I won't though
I was in a situation yesterday afternoon that highlights the utility of remaining objective (as much as one can) when reflecting on events that anger us. I walked into a small taxi office intending to take a cab to meet a friend one town over. It was 5 in the afternoon, when the probability of encountering aggressive drunks should have been low. However, this is England. I entered the confined customer waiting area and three young boys (assumed to be brothers, all aged around 6-8 years old) and a young woman assumed to be their mother or older sister (early 20s) were sat on the bench to my left. On the right, a woman in her 40s-50s was leaning against the wall. A member of the taxi firm was sat operating a radio and PC behind a protective screen directly in front of me; two other (male) members of staff were in the office with him. The stench of alcohol was very strong. As I walked towards the radio operator to ask for a cab, the older woman asked me for £2.50 so she could get a taxi home. "No," I said. "Well [expletive] off, you little [expletive]," she said. I intended to ignore her and continue towards the radio operator. The older woman grabbed my wrist with one hand and cocked back her other arm as though she was preparing to hit me. I pulled my wrist free and took a few steps back, raising my hands in a 'fence.' "Don't touch me," I said. She shouted something I can't quite remember now, and was gesturing wildly with her hands. It was quite obvious she was squaring up. The younger woman quickly rose up off the bench and shouted, "Don't touch my grandma, you [expletive]." The older woman took a step towards me and I pushed her back with both hands. It was quite a firm push, both hands connecting with her shoulders. She staggered back. I looked sternly at the younger woman, who I now knew to be the aggressively drunk woman's daughter. "Tell her to calm down," I said. The younger woman then began to hold her mother back, while the older drunk lady was unloading a torrent of verbal abuse at me. Apparently she knew such-and-such a person who would do all sorts of wonderfully creative and painful things to me. One of the male members of staff stepped in between the younger woman (still holding back her shouting and swearing mother), asked me where I wanted to go, and took me to a taxi outside. On the drive to my destination we joked about what had just happened. I'm not even remotely bothered by the incident. Yes, in the heat of the moment, I felt angry that this old woman had chosen to be aggressive towards me because I wouldn't give her money. But I chose to react in as calm a manner as I could (while still ensuring I defended myself) because the consequences could have been dire: she could have been seriously injured (she was waifer thin), as could her daughter and, possibly, those innocent young boys. Had I chosen to lash out, I could have been arrested as it would have been their word against mine (the driver disclosed that the firm does not have CCTV in the office, and the staff did not realise an altercation was underway until the drunk lady was being restrained by her daughter. I have given the situation no mind since it happened (apart from recounting events here) because no harm came to anyone. I pity the woman rather than feel anger towards her because she would probably feel ashamed once she sobered up (or not... this is England). It is those young boys I feel most sorry for however, because that woman is likely a prominent role model in their lives. Wow. Just keep the two 5's in mind: if it won't matter 5 years from now, don't give it more than 5 minutes thought.
