I wouldn't generalise like that, because I've seen far too much variation of the attitudes of men and women to rely on stereotypes. I still remember being horrified at a woman's story of a SD course she took, over a number of sessions. She was feeling like she was learning legit techniques that could stop an attacker, until the final "pressure testing" part of the course. A bloke pinned her down and wouldn't let go, until she did the prescribed techniques taught in the course and the bloke would just turn passive and let go. She came away feeling less confident than when she started. I've known a fair few blokes who want some confidence but are put off by actually having to train, so they download WWII military H-H manuals and think they can kill someone. Equally, I've known women be more feisty and rough-and-tumble than most blokes. Sadly, women are most vulnerable to people they know and think they can trust. To repeat the Geoff Thompson quote Simon posted recently: If we're talking about sexual assault by acquaintances, which is one of the biggest threats to women, then fighting is not what needs to be taught. Really, the problem is as deep seated in our culture, and arguably our biology, as displays of social aggression is to men.