A very dear friend of mine is going off to college, and she is asking on some tips to protect herself from all the "gropers, and pervs" in college. Not a very likely scenario to happen but basically she just wants to know how to protect herself. As we have discussed in YouKnowWho's post, sometimes there are times when people cannot have formal instruction from a very high ranking master/grandmaster. This is one of those situations, I teach my own class of teens but I normally take my time because I have to deal with pinyans (katas), drills, and then moving onto the self defense aspect. Sadly, I don't have years and years to impress my knowledge upon her. I have about a fraction of the time. I'll probably be conducting 2 to 3 lessons a week for maybe 2 - 4 hours at a time. Some background on her, she is a soccer player, insanely good looking (just throwing that out there), Asian, and on the shorter side, which is stereotypically accurate. My initial plan would be to use the muscle mass she already has, which is primarily in the legs, and finding out what naturally is her inclinations. With that I can work around it, find what naturally comes to her, etc. I'm not charging anything, besides the occasional lunch (if she finds the drive to do so out of goodness of her heart.) Though I teach Kajukenbo, I come to MAP to ask you guys this because I normally have more than enough time to develop the muscle that my students need, and also drilling it enough to be just a natural movement. If anybody could offer any additional suggests, besides the obvious, have her enter a fine institution of Martial Arts learning; because of her moving onto college, there are financial hardships and time constraints such that she cannot be formally taught in a class. My 2 - 4 hours will be working around her time, and since I'm the sole source, there is a bit of flexibility in it. Just a bit, I gotta have a life too. tl;dr: Friend who needs self defense tips. Dilemma: Teach her, or don't and have her rely on instinct, that she doesn't trust. Dilemma #2: If I do teach her, do I build muscle mass to make her more well rounded, or due to time constraints, work around what she already has. In a sense: "Use what her mama gave her." Her schedule not reliable enough and too financially unstable to have her enter a dojo/school/dojang/gym/etc for an extended amount of time to have her learn. I'm quite sorry if this is a very dumb question, and if it goes against the very fabric that we preach of formal instruction is helpful. Atleast she's learning from me, and not YouTube. Praise the Lord. And I also specialize in teenagers, yes I am one too, but I find it easier to teach teenagers because I know what makes us click. Thanks a lot in advance for the advice!