So I recently started BJJ. I have some prior experience wrestling. The no-gi class was good--I was decent against less experienced folks, and got destroyed by more experienced folks. I felt like I understand the basics of no-gi rolling and was just severely outmatched. I could follow what I did wrong, etc. In the gi class I struggle with rolling. My partner usually starts in butterfly. Any aggression by me ends up with them having a grip on my lapel, a foot locked into my chest by the lapel grip, and then it all goes downhill from there as I don't know how to get them back off, and if I don't get it back off they use it to keep progressing. I've tried not being aggressive once, but we both ended up sitting there just trying for sleeve grips or something, and eventually I ended up in the same position (I forget exactly what happened, I probably got impatient). Any tips for the very start/initiating without ending up in that lapel grip + foot to chest thing, or for how to get out of it?