Training in preparation for the real deal How do you train in a controlled environment like a gym or dojo for the real event. Training for a real event begins with, among other things, picking a partner that will progressively increase the intensity of his attack as you progress in your training. Your training partner should be knowledgeable in real attack methods. This means no reverse punches, or karate kicks. Your attacker will go for the shock value, with a slap, push, or hair pull. Generally the attacker will not knock you to the ground because he doesn't want to roll around in the dirt any more then you do, he wants to drive you to a secluded location. Your partner shouldn't over pad. If he can't feel your strike his natural reactions to your response to his attack won't happen. If you are a woman your partner should be a man, with his ego under control. If you are a man your partner should be bigger then you are.