Its done..... waiting for headstone, there will be two names on it.... my wife is going to transfer her father to the form China in a few years, when her sister comes to the states.....her father was cremated and you only rent plots in China...so we purchased a double plot at the cemetery.....still does not seem real Thanks to MAP for allowing this thread.
I have found it's the time after the death and all the phoning round relatives, taking care of paperwork, making funeral arrangements etc. that the impact hits you hardest so you and your wife look after each other in the weeks ahead.
