I would like some advice and insight from male and female users because I'm currently a bit unsure on some things, specifically, sparring with female partners. The form of karate I study at our dojo is Goju-Ryu and there's meant to be little contact, however, more contact is allowed if the partners are in agreement. The adult class of our dojo is comprised of mostly male students but there are some females of various belt levels. The issue I'm having is when I spar any partner, I try to do my best if they're of the same or higher level and hold back for a lower belt level. I always try to give the partner some opportunity so I don't wail away and hope for the same respect. I don't go incredibly easy on a student based on their sex because I view that as demoralizing and patronizing, especially when they're pretty good and can hold their own. However, many other male students and a few female students disagree with this by saying I should always go a lot easier simply based on the partner's sex and if I do make even light contact, I should immediately stop to see if they're fine (even when it's obvious they're fine and indicate they want to continue). The sensei agrees with my view as do other black-belt students, however, some of the brown belt students disagree. I'm not asking for advice on how to tell them my view because I've done that countless times. Instead, I'm looking to see whether users on these forums agree with my view or with the view of the others. That is, agree to treat the female student as any sparring partner or to go incredibly easy on them. The ones who go incredibly easy take a lot of strikes and provide minimal defense or counter-striking, although they are quite capable. The female students aren't very laid back, especially the higher belt level ones as some are more aggressive than the majority of male students. To female users, if you're sparring a male partner and some contact is made but you're not injured at all, would you want him to immediately stop and ask you sets of questions to see if you're fine? Or, would you be happy with just nodding your head or saying you're fine and continue with sparring? I know it sounds like a loaded question but I want to get responses from users outside our dojo.