Rape

Discussion in 'Self Defence' started by Kyokushin Guy, Apr 9, 2012.

  1. Llamageddon

    Llamageddon MAP's weird cousin Supporter

    a) I'm pretty sure no one is calling you insane. In fact I think a few people have tried to explain how they're not doing that.

    b) out of interest, who told you to opt out of society, and how was it phrased?
     
  2. Smitfire

    Smitfire Cactus Schlong

    Believe it or not but there is quite a large grey area between "not going out at all and then only with a knife" and "socializing with drunk people that will assault you".
    I think that's what we're getting at.

    I hate socialising with drunk people too. I rarely go into town on a weekend. I'm virtually tee-total. I don't go clubbing. I too dislike those things. But then I'm a middle aged man with a family. To reach that stage as a young woman half my age seems a shame to me.
     
  3. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    They didn't use the word insane, but they have told me to get help and that I need to 'get better'(!).

    And I couldn't pinpoint exact posts off hand but most times I have discussed this the consensus was don't go to those places in the first place. In fact I've mentioned before that I simply banned myself from going out at night because places were so unruly and was actually told that I was doing the smart, sensible thing. Why am I now wrong for doing that?
     
  4. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    Why a shame? I don't drink because I don't see the attraction of having vertigo and not being able to talk straight. I don't go clubbing because while I do love neon lights, techno music and general high sensory stimulation, drunk people just get on my nerves and invariably start crap. I have things I could be DOING with that time that are actually productive. I have a scifi novel I just finished writing...guess instead of typing that up I should have been hanging around a bunch of boring drunken idiots to prove how 'sane' I am. Did you also notice my point about social events COSTING MONEY? Why is it such a shame that I'm not social?
     
  5. Llamageddon

    Llamageddon MAP's weird cousin Supporter

    That's a simple rule for self-protection, and it's universal - you pays your money you takes your choice. That being said, it's a rule I follow, but I don't stay holed up in my room all day. I go out and use my noggin.

    To be honest, I think you're being a bit adversarial here. People, for whatever reason, have decided to show their concern, which I think is quite a nice thing. If you're going to jump on people because of the way they are perceiving you, you might find it harder to get advice in the future.
     
  6. Smitfire

    Smitfire Cactus Schlong

    Because maybe you run the risk of missing out on some great, useful, satisfying and important life experiences? Meeting interesting people? Opportunities and avenues?
    The whole latter part of my career in art and design came about through socialising with someone I trained with at the time.
    A complete life change for me.

    You want to be a writer? I'm sure you'll know some of the best writers use their experience of life to inform what they write.

    To be honest...it's your life and I'm coming across with more interest in this subject than I actually have.
    Just suggesting that sound advice to avoid crappy pubs and drunks doesn't then mean you don't go anywhere at all and view all men as potential rapists if given the opportunity.
     
  7. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    I'm being adversarial because I've tried to explain why being asocial is the most reasonable choice for me and I all am hearing is how I need 'help' and to 'get better'. Why am I in the wrong for asking people to actually acknowledge what I said instead of continuing to tell me how unsound I am?

    I could choose to start going out to social events again, but to be honest for me that would be stupid and wasteful.

    I'm 5 miles or so out of the nearby town. I don't drive due to sensory/neurological issues I won't go into. A taxi either way costs...what...€15 I think? That's €30, IF you can get one. If. A lot of times you call for a taxi and can't get one for an hour. Doing that regularly would be throwing away money that I actually to finish my education.

    Doing that just to prove I am normal and sociable seems senseless.
     
  8. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    When there's somewhere reasonably civil to go, and I have a safe means of getting there and back and can actually afford it, I'll maybe consider being more social. Where I am, there's pretty much nowhere.
     
  9. seiken steve

    seiken steve golden member

    hrrmm no matter where i've been in the country (or the world for that matter) i've always found somewhere half decent to go for a pint and people to have said pint with.

    where abouts in ireland are you? i've a lot of mates from the land of green, always fun folk on a night out imo, although i suspect my nights out are different to your ideal.
     
  10. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    I'd rather not post my exact location on the internet, I'll PM you
     
  11. seiken steve

    seiken steve golden member

    yeah fair one, more out of curiosity than to look it up in which pub guide lol.

    couple of my mates from castledergg have some right horror stories.
     
  12. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    Want to share? :D
     
  13. John R. Gambit

    John R. Gambit The 'Rona Wrangler

  14. Kyokushin Guy

    Kyokushin Guy Valued Member

    ok, I'll jump on that hand grenade (since I'm the one that threw it).

    i think i am the only one who overtly has suggested getting help. i said it, and stand by it, because i think it would help you become a more contented person overall. however, i certainly can understand how hearing that - especially from someone who doesn't even know you - can be offensive. sorry for that.

    however, to be fair you are making a straw man out of my suggestion. i said it not in response to your statement that being asocial is the best choice, but because of your statement about viewing all/nearly all men as likely rapists/potential rapists and because of your statement toward that picture of Randy Couture. i felt that these statements were indicative of something that a professional could help alleviate and i still believe this.

    however, ive reached the point where continuing to press will be counter productive and more annoying to everyone here than anything else. i'll leave it here and just wish you the best.
     
  15. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    Thank you.

    Oh right I got ya. I appreciate that but in fairness I did explain why I took that viewpoint and feel that simply having a much bigger guy go about with you is a sketchy option. I don't think the answer to that is a bunch of therapy. I'd simply rather only ever be alone with people I know very well and are safe.
     
  16. 47MartialMan

    47MartialMan Valued Member

    Here is a place where a woman can go and not be raped by men;
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    But seriously, if someone resides where such activity is happening on a upscale, I would think the best course of action would be to move.
     
  17. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    I do plan on moving when that is feasible.
     
  18. Kyokushin Guy

    Kyokushin Guy Valued Member

    i never realized how good a cross section of RECESSIVE genes existed in Amazonia.
     
  19. Microlamia

    Microlamia Banned Banned

    I love the red-haired woman's armor.
     
  20. 47MartialMan

    47MartialMan Valued Member

    She is the Queen Lesbo
     

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