This is a rather long story that has a lot of details but I will try my best to sum it up. About 3 months ago I started seeing this women. I am a single father of 4 and she is a single mother of 2. She was separated from her husband. She is an old high school friend. We reunited at of all things a high school reunion. I say she is separated because she did not have money for a divorce and he would not pay for it. She was in the process of trying to build money for a lawyer to do the divorce. The lawyers in the immediate area would not even draft it until she had paid them up front. (That is another issue entirely, Lawyers). So I began seeing her. One day her kids were at my house playing with my kids. They mentioned staying all night. It was fine with me. So they stayed. Next thing I know at 2:30 AM there is a loud knock on my door. It was her ex. She opened the door and went outside. He was screaming at the top of his lungs. This woke the kids up. I look out the window and see him raising his hand like he was going to hit her. I say calmly “Please quite down, you are waking the kids. He states “That *******” and bolts towards the door. I say “You are not welcome in my house” Before I get the door locked he pushes through and tackles me. Trying his best to punch me he misses and misses. I played defense (now I’m wishing I didn’t). The reason being kids were watching. She yells at him to stop and think about the kids. He simply says I don’t give a …… “ He continues and gets one punch in below my eye. My reaction was to laugh, which understandably ****ed him off more. This entire time I’m just asking him to calm down and leave. She calls the cops. He pushes her and says “Way to go ….. you just cost me a DUI” He leaves on foot. Blocking my vehicles in. (This costed me $75 to have towed out of my driveway because the cops could not do anything about it). He is charged with burglary, simple assault, two counts of harassment, criminal trespass, disorderly conduct and public drunkenness (I believe endangering the welfare of a child should be on it also). The initial court appearance comes (this is not the trial, just testimony before hand. Which he can plead not guilty or guilty at this time), and he pleads guilty and the burglary charge is dropped. However the arraignment comes and he changes the plea to not guilty. This entire time he is out walking the streets. No punishment at all. While walking free he gets into more trouble. He punches a hole through a wall on a weekend he has the kids. The city cops do nothing. The next day he beats the crap out of his mother who is the middle person for the kids. (He has a no contact order for me and kids mom). So now there is no middle person, because she was granted a PFA on him. So in essence the kids mom has no way of not violating the no contact order without violating the custody agreement and vice versa. Their mother tries to get a PFA for kids based on what he did to his mom and from the anger issues of putting his fist through the wall. It is denied by the judge. He files for contempt because she is violating the custody agreement. She previously had contacted a lawyer (from another county who has agreed to take payments) and he and child services said they did not want them to go with him. They had a hearing today on the contempt. Guess what. She has no choice but to release them to him despite the fact that he has been in trouble a few times for violent crimes. He walked away from court with just harassment and an order for anger management classes for the assault on his mom. Despite having been through anger management 3 times before. Now much of what I know really doesn’t constitute proof but his own kids have made statements of how much he yells at them, hits them, etc. Their mom has said many things on how mean he is (which is expected). Her son did not know what to do when I was playing with him. It was like he was never approached in a fun way and did not know an adult could play. They ask for lunchables and peanut butter and jelly for dinner, cause that is what they had at dads. (I only seldom do things that easy for dinner, generally it is a meat, vegetable, fruit, and something else, with milk or water. I also greatly limit sugar, salt and butter.) It really ticks me off that a person like him can get away with all this stuff. It’s no wonder people have the attitude of getting even in this area, because the justice system certainly doesn’t give them confidence that they will get justice. He is going to preliminary trial on Jan 10th. They will offer one more time for burglary to be dropped and the rest to remain. Thing is I had to threaten to sue the city. They were going to drop more but I told them from the start I would not do so and I was going for the max jail time and max time probation afterwards. Nobody comes into my house and threatens me. Next time perhaps I should not put my faith in the justice system and I shouldn’t play defense. I did say one thing to the cops and the court officials. If he ever shows up at my house again they will be dealing with a lot more. I will not play defense again. Again a lot of detail is missing but you get the point. Am I nuts in thinking that the local justice system is failing miserably?