Straw man argument - nobody talked about trophies. But there is a difference between awarding a trophy and thinking that you get to decide who does martial arts or not. Martial arts is for everyone, people of all weights, ages, gender, races and disabilities. Who do you think you are to judge what others get to do? You don't get to decide others lives. And you don't get to decide who goes to the school. That is up to the instructor and owner. Plus, telling a person trying to better themselves they shouldn't except in the way YOU think fit, well that does not reflect very nicely on your value system. Telling them to not get more physically fit when they are trying, that is a particularly rude statement. You sound bitter because someone has the skill to hold you down and you don't have the skill to stop it. Complaining instead of learning from all situations will hamper your development as a martial artist. Using his weight as an excuse for why you did not succeed. Guess what? Someone on the street might attack you who is heavier than you. How are you going to handle that? I have success against people much bigger than me, because I have worked hard over many years. Is their weight an advantage? Yes. Do I sometimes overcome it with skill? Yes. Is my weight an advantage over smaller sparring partners? Yes. Jeez, just deal with it and stop complaining and judging. Go train! Have an open mind and learn from every situation.