Things that make you go GRRRRR.... (Part 2)

Lets see...someone sends an e-mail you respond and tell them what needs to be done. They sne you an e-mail to tell you what they want done.... you send an e-mail to tell them why that can't be done...they send an e-mail saying ok but do this...which is the same exact thing you told them could not be done....repeat this 4 more times....send one final e-mail with copious detail as to why it can't be done with great amounts of detail on the topic and have them respond with ask this other guy...who I know has no knowledge what-so-ever on the topic.... send and ask and get a response.... "I know nothing about the topic"...forward that response with the reasons why it cannot be done and FINALLY the response is oh then lets go the way you are talking about..... that... right there.... made me go GRRRRRRRR

 

Damn run tracker on my phone messed up and thinks I ran 0.3k in 30 minutes. I'm not THAT bad.

 

Parcel Force returning my parcel to sender when they were instructed to leave it at the post office for me to pick up. And then ignoring me when I got in touch with them to ask why?

Oh and their tracker is useless. It claimed my parcel was in their depot. Turned out it had been in the post office the entire time. They only retrieved it on the day I had arranged to pick it up! :bang:

 

Got the lurgy again! A few weeks after I was last full of snot, here I am filling myself with spicy stuff and lucozade while constantly blowing my nose. Not happy, seeing as it's winter bouldering competition time :woo:

 

I hate that. Mine either goes to my middle ears and makes me deaf as a doadie or it hangs up there, getting infected and suddenly falls out - usually when I'm right in the middle of skipping rope or burpees in class.

 

Hate to hear that, aaradia. It can be over so quickly. I saw a bloke die a few weeks ago in a motorcar accident. We had just come from eating at a restaurant and passed a rather dangerous and busy intersection when we heard the tyres of a car screech and heard a boom. Heard the boom - what was odd was that from that instant, everything went into slow motion from the time we heard the crash. I looked into the rear view mirror and then I saw this pickup truck's front end crumple and this dust slowly filled the air. It was like the accident itself was going at quarter speed, whilst everything around it were going faster than normal - then I saw, what at first I incredulously thought was a sack of potatoes flying through the air.

Part of me realised it warn't a sack of potatoes but its odd how another part of us seeks to be in denial. People were getting out of their cars while the body was still rolling on the highway. So surrealistic.

Glad your friends are not suffering from life-threatening injuries. My - a broken neck amongst the injuries and they are expected to go home soon?

Truly amasing.

 

aaradia, deep gassho to you and great sympathy for you and your friends. And many words and thoughts of understanding to you and to them.

Several years ago I was in a car driven by a family member hit by another car. The other car was speeding and our driver (my sister) went through a stop sign. Both at 'fault' on a clear bright morning, no alcohol etc. involved, at a dangerous intersection out in the country, one well known for many terrible accidents. Our 19 year old nephew was killed, I was hurt, others shaken but not 'injured' - altho of course they were badly hurt. . I was pinned in the car with him for a long time, many firefighters, LEOs and emergency personnel worked hard to help us and I will always remember their dilligence and kindness. There are no words to describe that grief and trauma. It has taken many years to " re-cover" and in some ways the loss to our family continues. He would be a wonderful man today and the anniversary of that day is just past.

Please stay steady and close by your friends. A constant, reliable presence of kindness and support is one way to help them. Please 'google' ' vehicle crash trauma or car accident trauma'. The recovery - both physical and emotional - goes on over a considerable length of time. If a person's spinal cord is not damaged it is certainly possible to have broken cervical vertebrae and heal. When finally removed from the car I was placed in a 'head box' to stabilize my head and neck until MRI determined I was ok. My face/head hit the back of the driver's seat - we were all wearing seat belts, even so our boy was killed.

You certainly can be of comfort and service to your friend and her husband. If the differences seem large, consult others in her community about appropriate ways to offer your support. Formality and dignity do not have to mean pretending that this never happened. I can't stress too much how important it is to be receptive, gentle and constant in your expressions of kindness, through all the months that lie ahead.
Just a few weeks after our accident and the death of our boy, some well-meaning but deeply mis-guided friends became impatient and annoyed that we were not 'moving on'. The friends and family who 'stayed close' (even tho some were many miles away) were a great help. Their patience was the great gift.

Your responses seem perfectly normal and fine to me - a 'weird mix of emotions' is a truthful description.

Please let us know how you are and how your friends are doing. I know I will be thinking of you with affection and support; here when you need us.

w//respect A

 

You may not have been "friends" before. You can certainly be so now. It won't be forgotten.

 

You've spent 10 years of your life doing something that matters to you together. You care enough about them to be experiencing a large mix of different emotions and enough that you want to offer your support in whatever way you can. I'd say even if you aren't "friends", you care about them in the same way.

Someone I have a huge amount of respect for once said that the friendships he built in the dojo are some of the strongest he's ever experienced and the longest lasting. At the time I thought he was being a touch sentimental but looking back, I think he was bang on the money.

It's not trivial at all. For what little it may be worth from me, that sounds like a good plan.

 

I think the same person must have worked on my house too.
Almost every screw has been stripped by being over tightened.

 

The people that used to own our house had an extension done.
No one, not even the cowboys that did it, saw fit to re-route the water tank outlet so that it still drained outside the house.
So when the stop-**** went it drained straight into the loft space above our bedroom.

 

Ouch, that's horrible to hear Southpaw

I hope things work out well. Probably seems pretty trivial but I'm not sure what else I can say. Except that I'm sure us MAPpers will still be happy to have you round regardless and your training will always add up to more than bugger all regardless of what happens.

Normally I'd make some flippant comment about finding a gym or a climbing club or something but I'm not sure that's appropriate here.