Do love slow down evolution of each members of the couple?

[furn]

These days, I though about many thing...and can't make my mind of what to think about all of this.

Do you think love is made for everyone? I have a girlfriend, I love her, but I can't get my head off the fact that it's made me a worse person. Because of the time I give to her, it's time I don't take for me.

I'm actually at the University, it asks me a lot of time. I would like to be more implicated in the world of boxing, i'm 20, I know I'm getting older, and it's now or never to try to make my way through the competitive way of boxing. Be with someone ask a lot of time too...so I can't perform at my best in my studies, my sport and others. I don't know why, but I find I wasting my time with her, but at the same time...I love her

It is because of the way of life where I live? It seems important to do many things and be implicated in our city. I wonder whether it is because of this way of thinking that the rate of divorce increases and that less couple is formed.

I'm pretty confused, am I an hypocrit?

Sorry if this seem weird...not clear...etc...but at least I feel a little better now.

[hapk1do]

Originally Posted by furn

These days, I though about many thing...and can't make my mind of what to think about all of this.

Do you think love is made for everyone? I have a girlfriend, I love her, but I can't get my head off the fact that it's made me a worse person. Because of the time I give to her, it's time I don't take for me.

I'm actually at the University, it asks me a lot of time. I would like to be more implicated in the world of boxing, i'm 20, I know I'm getting older, and it's now or never to try to make my way through the competitive way of boxing. Be with someone ask a lot of time too...so I can't perform at my best in my studies, my sport and others. I don't know why, but I find I wasting my time with her, but at the same time...I love her

It is because of the way of life where I live? It seems important to do many things and be implicated in our city. I wonder whether it is because of this way of thinking that the rate of divorce increases and that less couple is formed.

I'm pretty confused, am I an hypocrit?

Sorry if this seem weird...not clear...etc...but at least I feel a little better now.

Dude Man.. You're too young for that kinda crap.. Get out there and mingle and be single.. Don't tie yourself down.. There's plenty of time for all that.. Take my word for it.. I'm 29, and I still don't really know if, or when, I wanna settle.. Give it some thought.

[Shrukin89]

Originally Posted by furn

These days, I though about many thing...and can't make my mind of what to think about all of this.

Do you think love is made for everyone? I have a girlfriend, I love her, but I can't get my head off the fact that it's made me a worse person. Because of the time I give to her, it's time I don't take for me.

I'm actually at the University, it asks me a lot of time. I would like to be more implicated in the world of boxing, i'm 20, I know I'm getting older, and it's now or never to try to make my way through the competitive way of boxing. Be with someone ask a lot of time too...so I can't perform at my best in my studies, my sport and others. I don't know why, but I find I wasting my time with her, but at the same time...I love her

It is because of the way of life where I live? It seems important to do many things and be implicated in our city. I wonder whether it is because of this way of thinking that the rate of divorce increases and that less couple is formed.

I'm pretty confused, am I an hypocrit?

Sorry if this seem weird...not clear...etc...but at least I feel a little better now.

If you think it has made you a worse person being around her. Then I think it's maybe time to call it quits if it doesn't play out right between you two. If you wanna do the things that you want to do go for it. Don't let it hold you back.

If you want to be in the world of boxing why not find a girl that has the same interest as you? It would make things much simplier.


I've been wondering about the increase in divorce rates that's happening around here as well. That made me less likely to be wanting a girl friend. The first one which was the last one ended terrible. It would be hard for the first time for everybody.

Here's my theory of maybe why divorce rates are so high.

It's maybe because the society is starting to break down. As more and more people are starting to become more violent and less caring for each other. The stress builds further from tensions at work, from friend's and etc. Even kids now a days are starting to become more abusive from the lack of discapline from parents.

All of us are changing in many folds. (Either in a good way or in a bad way.) I'm guessing it's a kind of cycle that we have to go through, that the Earth is going through.

It's crazy that I say this, but I think the negative energy that we express from ourselves doesn't bring out a clean positive relationship.

I don't think most of us know the true meaning of love. This doesn't mean sex, or kissing or hugging. Some younger youths out there are starting to have sex at like 14. Why? Maybe they want to only relieve their satisfaction of pleasure. They like the feeling of pleasure. What's the influence from that? Maybe from porn that's on the internet, on T.V, on movies, the way girls now a days dress.

I don't know but it's all reckless... Reckless love

[furn]

Hi guys

Like you two must know, it's hard to break a relation...and i lived in a flat with her...so i'm "stuck" in this situation. For now I'll just try to do more what I want to do, and if she don't take it anymore, well, it will be more natural to break.

There more "frictional" moment between us, and when she's angry, she wills not try to solve the problem....she just blast and insult me when she can.

But I don't blame her neither...I'm still searching myself and my opinion and ideas often change, I know it must be hard to follow and to live with that kind of person...but at the same time, I don't think I have to restrict myself in my decision...

Anyway, it's good to her your story, it give me some meat to think about...

[furn]

Originally Posted by hapk1do

Dude Man.. You're too young for that kinda crap.. Get out there and mingle and be single.. Don't tie yourself down.. There's plenty of time for all that.. Take my word for it.. I'm 29, and I still don't really know if, or when, I wanna settle.. Give it some thought.

Man you're word work me very hard. Right now it's very late and I still can't sleep. I'm seriously thinking to quit her when the contract on the flat will be over. She careless with me now. I don't know, but I feel like she thinks that she puts her sticker on me, so I belong to her and she don't have to make effort in our relation. But when I try to talk to her and tell her what I don't like between the two of us, she says thing like " You're hard on me" or " It's not my fault" etc. I'm becoming sick trying to make the effort for two.

Yep...hard thought but I think it will be the end soon...

Thank for you're word

[Ragnarok2005]

I dont get how having sex with her takes up so much time that you can't box and study.

[Raven Wing]

Rags breaks it down to the fundamentals there!

[Dr NinjaBellydance]

If you view the time you spend with her as 'wasted' then the whole thing's pretty screwed right there. You can justify it with talk of wanting to do other things with your time but at the end of the day if you dont want to hang out with her any more its pretty much done. We can still love someone and not want to be with them anymore, at the end of any long term relationship that's often the case. If doesnt make it any easier to finish it but it also doesnt mean that you can just carry on with it if you're not happy. I totally understand where you are with the making an effort thing, I seem to get taken for granted in almost every relationship I've even been in! They usually dont realise how bad it is until its too late. Suggest trying to talk to her again, try to make her realise how unhappy its making you, but to be honest it sounds like you've already made up your mind. Good luck.