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YODA
22-Nov-2002, 09:05 PM
Synchronicity, A Doorway into the Flow

Copyright © 2001 by Nisandeh Neta

After years of working with computers, I had had enough.
Together with my partner, I departed for India, in search of a new purpose in my life.
One night, I awoke on fire with the feeling that I had to work with people, yet at that moment I was not clear about what and how.
A few days later I completed an evening workshop that filled my heart with love, thus giving direction and clarity to what I had felt so strongly a few evenings before.
In that instant, I knew what I wanted to give to people.

This workshop I discovered, originated in Holland.
The choice was immediate. Destination: The Nederland.
Not knowing what to do from that point, we simply had to trust.
Soon afterwards, we returned home to sell the car, rent out the apartment and pack.
Within that same week, my partner received an offer to work in Holland, for her old employer, which included an advanced role, an increased salary, and a house in Amsterdam.

Officially, it takes a few years of preparation for the "qualifications" to lead the workshop I had done in India, yet within six months, I was leading my first group, with 40 grateful participants.

I don't have wings and a halo. But at that period, situations in my life "conspired" in both magical and amazing ways, and I felt totally connected to the universe's greater power.

This experience of connection is often referred to as being 'in the flow'.
When we are in flow, (co)-incidences line up, events fall into place, and obstacles melt away.

Most of us have had experiences of being in the flow.
In those times, we know we're in the right place at the right time doing the right thing.
We feel both excited and at peace, somehow connected to something, which is bigger than ourselves. Life becomes full of meaning, magic and purpose. We feel alive, joyful and grateful.

But for most of us, it doesn't happen too often or for long enough.
We have glimpses of flow, and then we lose it again.

This doesn't have to be.
It is possible to learn how to consciously create the flow in your life. The means by which this is achieved is through synchronicity - those times when outside events, which appear not to have any connection, come together and connect us with something, which is larger than ourselves.

There are three basic types of synchronicities:

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Meaningful coincidences - you thought about somebody, the phone rings, and your 'somebody' is on the line. It might not be meaningful for that individual, but it sure is for you.
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Significantly related patterns of chance - you win the lottery or you are involved in an accident for the third time this year. In both cases the universe is trying to tell you something - you better listen!
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A casual connecting principle - last week you had a fight with your partner, which is still bothering you. When you're in the car, you turn the radio on and the first song is 'it's hard for me to say I'm sorry'. A solution pops up without any apparent connection to the issue.

When synchronicity happens - follow it!
When you hear the song on the radio, pick up your mobile phone and tell your partner that you are sorry, no matter how difficult it may be.
See what happens.

Use synchronicity for guidance as well as confirmation.

A few years ago I was walking alone in the woods. At a certain point the path reached an intersection. I hesitated for a moment, realizing I was totally lost. I remembered reading somewhere that you must follow the path, which is more alive. So I looked up, and at a short distance on the path on the left side stood a deer. To cut a long story (and quite a long walk) short, I followed the deer, a rabbit, a crow and another rabbit, and I got back... to my car.
No coincidence really...

When I make an important decision or take an important step I always look to see what comes my way in the next hours or days. If the synchronicities in my life are 'positive', I assume that I have chosen correctly, and I continue further, with greater confidence. If the immediate events (connected or not) are 'negative', I will slow down and re-examine my steps.

For a while our business didn't meet our expectations.
Something was stuck.
At one point we were having a spontaneous 'radical honesty' session. We said things to each other that we withheld for a while. It was both confronting and emotional, and towards the end - the phone rang. Picking up the call brought us an opportunity to create a unique in-company training.
The universe sent us a clear message that our clearing process was a step in the right direction.

I believe that synchronicity is a form of communication between the greater reality (call it god, the universe, higher self, spirit, whatever...) and you.
The purpose of this communication is to constantly support you being in the flow.

In order to enjoy more and more moments of flow, your first step is to listen.
Pay attention and notice all those small synchronicities that happen constantly around you.
Acknowledge them, and stop using the words: luck, coincidence, fortunate, unfortunate, etc...
The more you listen, the more you hear.

Your next step will be to act upon the synchronicities.
Maybe suddenly, in the middle of the day, you have an urge to go to the pub and have a beer.
And maybe you're not into pubs, or into beer or not the type to go to the pub and drink at this time of day.
Do yourself a favor. On this occasion, get out of the office, walk to the nearest pub and order that beer.
Maybe, your prince(cess) on the white stallion is sitting next to you, feeling lonely and... hating beer.

No coincidences really...

morphus
22-Nov-2002, 11:30 PM
I love this....post Yoda, why did you post it, did it ring bells - thoughts of patterns you have seen in your life that you've not really taken too much notice of before or do you already use this method somewhat.........or do you just think it's absolute trash??

Actually it does ring bells with me, i remember these patterns and i think i'll take more notice in the future!

cheers m'n!

YODA
23-Nov-2002, 10:48 AM
Hi Morphus

Yes - I believe :D

I posted for the same reason I post a lot of the stuff I do - to share those things that I feel have had a positive effect in my life. Or to provoke people into thinkings things that may lead to their own growth.

Speaking of Synchronicity - have you seen the film "Signs?" - wow!

khafra
02-Dec-2002, 08:40 PM
Speaking of synchronicity, have you read Foucault's Pendulum?

On the other hand, Yoda's never been wrong before...

YODA
02-Dec-2002, 09:45 PM
Originally posted by khafra


On the other hand, Yoda's never been wrong before...


........ LOL!

My darling Wife would disagree :D

morphus
23-May-2003, 09:31 AM
I have recently read the following book and it mentioned synchronicity, which struck a cord in me. The following passage is a philosophy for SETTING UP your own synchronicity in a very practical manner, speaks to me strongly. See what you think.

Write it down, make it happen!
Henriette Anne Klauser

Help from the brain -

Writing down your dreams & aspirations is like hanging up a sign that says "open for business" Or as my friend Elaine puts it, by writng it down, you declare yourself in the game. Putting it on paper alerts the parts of your brain known as the reticular activating system to join you in the play.
At the base of the brain stem, is a group of cells whose job it is to sort and evaluate incoming data. This control centre is known as the reticular activating system(RAS). The RAS sends the urgent stuff to the active part of your brain and the non urgent to the sub-conscious. The RAS awakens the brain to consciousness and keeps it alert - just as surely as your baby's cry in the night, from all the way down the hall, can waken you from a deep sleep. The RAS evaluates the non-essential night time noises - the dripping tap, neighbourhood traffic - and filters out the non-urgent, waking you up for the urgent. The baby cries and in a split second you're up, wide awake to rescue the infant in distress.
The Keenest , most familier example of RAS at work is an experience all of us has had at some time. You are in a packed room; you can barely hear the conversation you are having with the person next to you.
Suddenly someone across the room mentions your name. And that one word cuts through the sea of sound and your ears immediately perk up. You now strain to hear if it is good news, ready to defend yourself if its bad.
Though you may think you are giving your undivided attention to your conversational partner, your attention is fragmented and subconciously taking in the tower of babel around you, sorting, sorting, sorting even as you speak!
The RAS is like a filtering system of the brain. Writing it down sets up the filter. Things start to appear - it's a matter of activating your filtering system.
If you have never owned a Honda before, and you buy a blue Honda, all of a sudden you see blue Hondas everywhere. You wonder where are all these blue Hondas are coming from? But they were always there; you were just not paying attention to them.
Putting a goal in writing is like buying a blue Honda; it sets up a filter that helps you be aware of certain things in your surroundings. Writing triggers the RAS, which in turn send a signal to the cerebral cortex; "Wake up! Pay attention! Don't miss this detail!" Once you write down a goal, your brain will be working overtime to see you get it and will alert you to the signs and signals that, like the blue Honda, were there all along.

YODA
23-May-2003, 09:53 AM
Excellent stuff!

Off to Amazon.co.uk :D

little lion
23-May-2003, 10:20 AM
has anyone ever read the book the Alchemist Paulo Coelho, in the book they call this THE LANGUAGE OF THE WORLD I highly recomend the book to anyone, its very inspirational:D

Greg-VT
23-May-2003, 10:28 AM
This is great stuff. Thanks for post Yoda, and equal thanks to morphus for bringing to my attention and for what you added.

slightly off topic.
It's funny. Most of the stuff I've read here just goes 'click' in my head. Not because it's somthing new that I've learnt, but because I've kinda thought the same way. It was just not as clear as what some these texts put it. I could never absolutly cleary define it, either in speech or write it in an arctle such as these (the more philosophical writings, not the scientific -that requires knowledge in the particular area). I find myself nodding, with each point, agknowledgeing that I already know this. Just not as oviouse as these writers put it.

But anyway, great stuff.

morphus
23-May-2003, 10:29 AM
I'll keep a lookout for that one. Cheers!

Bon
23-May-2003, 11:09 AM
Nice articles!

I read a short chapter on this in a book which basically said success is the crossroad of opportunity and being prepared for it! So there's no such thing as luck, just being prepared to take what comes your way. :)

Makes sense to me, kinda like throwing a feint for the reaction and then hitting them in the opening they leave.

Slownsteady
23-May-2003, 11:33 AM
Hi Peeps- great stuff.

Alchemist= great book

Another along the lines of this thread = celestine prophecies / James Redfield

Touches so many chords, even if it is supposed to be fiction.


Mick

YODA
23-May-2003, 12:05 PM
Originally posted by Slownsteady
Hi Peeps- great stuff.

Alchemist= great book

Another along the lines of this thread = celestine prophecies / James Redfield

Touches so many chords, even if it is supposed to be fiction.


Mick

I realy enjoyed The Celestine Prophecy but I think they spoiled it with the Tenth Insight. I think they believe it.

Brad Ellin
23-May-2003, 12:06 PM
Wonderful!! I'm a true and firm believe in this. I have a tendency to act upon these seemingly random events in my life than to not act. So far, I haven't been disappointed. After all, that's how I met my wife. And that's how I came across this site, met my current martial arts instructor and all those years ago, met my best friend.
I've read the Celestine Prophecies, but found it a bit dry and boring. I think I'll try to find Alchemist Paulo Coelho.

Bon
23-May-2003, 12:15 PM
Kurohana, would you mind eleborating on how you met your wife this way?

Slownsteady
24-May-2003, 03:43 AM
Hi Yoda.

Are you telling me that you Don't believe that by increasing your natural awareness/vibration that you can make yourself invisible to others??? :eek: :D

Seriously tho, it is a fiction book.

The alchemist is along the lines of Acres Of Diamonds.

Someones Sig here sums it up- the one with the comment on looking abroad for Sages

regs

M

khafra
27-May-2003, 07:51 PM
A more succinct way to put it than Umberto Eco did in Foucault's Pendulum is the law of fives --
Everything significant happens in fives, or multiples of five, or are divisible by five, or are in some other way related to the number five. I find this true more and more, the harder I look

The secret of course being in that last sentence, there.
However, I must admit to high levels of absolutely incredible coincidences around certain individuals and things, and I tend to follow them. I kinda consider myself a deconstructionist-materialist mystic.

Brad Ellin
09-Jul-2003, 01:01 AM
Originally posted by Bon
Kurohana, would you mind eleborating on how you met your wife this way?

Sorry it has taken so long to answer this Bon, but some things in life take a back seat to others and some things need to be answered in their time.
My ex-wife left me for my ex-best friend. It happened while I was in Saudi Arabia the first time. I got home a month before Christmas and a week later she asked for a divorce (Merry X-mas!). For four years I did not date. Had a few female friends, but remained celibate, not even good night kisses. I was able to find a Ninjutsu Club at a nearby college, and started going up there once a week to train. I ended up assisting the guy running the Club (a nidan in the Bujinkan) and became very popular with the ladies in the class. One of them was a very pretty Indian girl. I never knew anyone from India, never had any interest in anything Indian, other than Native American. Now, I did not ever ask this girl out, nor was I interested in dating her (age difference of 15+ years, not that it matters to me), but it did open my eyes open to the beauty of Indians and their culture. Fast forward a few months: Talking with my best friend one day (not the ex-best friend, but my oldest and dearest brother/friend of no blood relation) lamenting the fact that I could not find a decent, non-drug addict, non-alchohlic, non-want to party all night, non-you-have-lots-of-money-and-a-flashy-car so I'll date you woman, when I jokingly said to him "With my luck she's on the other side of the world". A few weeks later, I started having recurring dreams of going back to Saudi Arabia (3rd time). Had no reason to go back. I was employed and making decent money for the area I was living in. Nevertheless, 2 months later, I found myself back in Saudi. Plan was to go there 6 months, bank some money and go home. 4 1/2 months later, I see this girl/woman (who happens to be Indian) everytime I walk to the compound store. Now, I had NO INTENTION of meeting, dating or otherwise socializing with a member of the oppposite sex. I had no intention of staying longer than 6 months, and did not want to have an attachments or break any hearts (including and perhaps most important, mine own). So, I perfected that look that says "Don't look at me, don't smile at me and above all DON"T FREAKIN' TALK TO ME!!!!! And it was working. Then one day, this girl/woman says "Hello" to me. A week later, I go to a friend's villa after work to talk. Just to socialize. Guy I have none for 16 years at the time, from my Air Force days. Just he and I. Sitting and talking. Then he picks up the phone and starts calling women. Eventually, he gets a few to come over. I get up to leave. Too late. With the bunch of girls that come over is the one who said "Hello" who, incidentally, did not want to come over, but her friends talked her into it. And the rest is history. She is now a permanent resident visa holder in the USA, we have a beautiful baby girl (which by the way, I went thru 4 1/2 hours of surgery to be able to conceive her) and despite our different cultures and upbringings she is the perfect match for me.
Too me, things just fell into place. Little clues here and there. Little road signs that pointed arrows to Saudi Arabia to meet my Indian Princess and to have that other half to my life. I had always wanted to (and still do) go to Japan and always had a thing for Japanese women, my wife lived there for 5-6 years, speaks Japanese, though not as fluent as her mother. But, most important (or at least very important) she supports me in my pursuit of Martial Training. My ex did not and resented the time I spent on it.

morphus
09-Jul-2003, 05:14 PM
Nice story Kurohana - Don't you just love life when it flows a nice way:cool:

Brad Ellin
09-Jul-2003, 08:57 PM
Yes I do. It's why I have always beleived everything happens for a reason. Seemingly random events have a purpose. That purpose may not reveal itself right away, but when the time is right, it will and with it will come understanding and clarity.